I’m talking about FORGIVENESS. I read something very powerful years ago and it has remained forever etched in my mind:
When you don’t forgive, you give your power away.
The thing is, forgiveness is about you, not them. If someone has done you wrong (and believe me, it will happen), you have the right to be angry for a period of time. I get it, I’ve been there. But eventually, you have to let it go or it becomes toxic. It’s no longer about what this person did to you in the past. In fact, it has nothing to do with them anymore.
I’m not saying you need to condone their actions. If what they did was wrong, then nothing can change that. You don’t even have to forgive the person in question face to face if you don’t feel inclined. But, whatever you do, don’t let them control your emotions. If you’re still holding on to your grudge, then you’re giving your power away. You’ll need to find your own way to forgive this person, in your own heart, on your own terms. If you don’t, you continue to empower that person.
When you’ve been wronged in deep ways, it may be tempting to become bitter. But once again, you would be giving your power away. Don’t fall into this trap! Even if this other person miraculously apologizes one day, they still don’t have the power to set you free.
Only you have that power. And forgiveness will lead you to it.
Conversely, you could be the one who hurt someone in deep ways. After all, none of us are perfect. But there’s no sense in continuing to judge and punish yourself. Instead, learn from your mistakes. Change your behaviour and become someone you respect and admire. And then, be gentle with yourself. Always. You can forgive yourself for whatever you’ve done.
When you forgive, you let go.
When you forgive, you grow.
When you forgive, you heal.
So why not lighten your emotional load? Take your power back and forgive with all your heart. Decide to free yourself, without needing anything from anybody. Let others do what they will. Let them say what they will. Don’t judge them, just let them be. They are on their path just as you are on yours. Simply focus on the light and you’ll see your life transform…
Love & Light,